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Sexual incompatibility is pretty inevitable in marriage. Because of some recent emails, I wanted to make sure we are clear on the fact that marriage will have some challenges for us to overcome. When we hold the notion that we won’t have any differences or incompatibilities in marriage it can set the stage for marriages to break up unnecessarily.Here’s what got the conversation going:

“With sex being one of the major causes of divorce this seems to be the great paradox of the law of chastity. If I ever am in a position to get married again, due to divorce or death (of course I hope that neither of those things happen), I will only marry someone who has been married before, so I can be sure they like sex at least as much as I do.”

“The single thing that is forbidden before marriage seems to be the first cause of marriages to break up. What do we expect of couples who marry as virgins and find themselves completely sexually incompatible? Is there a way to prevent this from happening without premarital experiences?”

Here are some of my thoughts in response:

Any couple that gets married would be wise to expect that there will be some degree of sexual incompatibility. I hope there’s no implication here in these comments that if people just had sex before they got married then they wouldn’t have any incompatibility problems. That’s a dangerous lie that Satan would love (and does) perpetuate. Read the rest of this entry »

A brand new store has just opened in New York City that sells husbands. When women go to choose a husband, they must abide by the following instructions:

“You may visit this store only once. There are six floors and the attributes of the men increase as the shopper ascends the flights. There is, however, a catch. You may choose any man from a particular floor, or you may choose to go up to the next floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the building!”

So, a woman goes to “The Husband Store” to find a husband. Read the rest of this entry »