March 12th, 2009 by Laura M. Brotherson

Men generally struggle to bridle their passions, but women struggle to awaken them. One of the specific things women struggle with is being able to connect with their sensuality and the physicality of sexual relations. You often hear of women deriding the carnality or physicalness of sex, as if it were a bad thing. It is not.
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March 2nd, 2009 by Laura M. Brotherson

Help for Husbands Stranded in the Sexual Desert
by Mark Chamberlain
Aaron was crying, too, as he drew Katy close to him and held her. Then he looked her in the eyes and said, “I hope that in time you’ll find it in your heart to forgive me for how immature I was back then. I’m sorry that my eagerness and sense of entitlement wounded you so deeply. I was wrapped up in what I wanted and thought I “deserved.”
LAURA’S NOTE: After some talk of the interesting discussion going on here in the Open Forum Discussion of this blog regarding husbands who find themselves in a sexual desert in their marriages, my good friend and fellow author, Mark Chamberlain, penned some suggestions below that may be of benefit to the many couples who long to find greater intimate and sexual fulfillment in their marriages. Here is an overview of his suggestions:
- Stop fanning the flames of frustration
- Replace certainty with curiosity
- Consider how you might unintentionally be making things worse
- Listen to and address your spouse’s concerns
- Reawaken gratitude and positive perceptions
- Build the foundations that support sexual intimacy
- Identify and address any effects of trauma
- Identify and address hormonal contributions Read the rest of this entry »
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