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Understanding Your Husband’s Psyche

Laura M. Brotherson — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 04:08:25 +0000

Relationship Coach Matt Townsend shares some great tips for better understanding and romancing your man on his KSL “Studio 5″ television appearance. If you want to better understand the male psyche check out this hilarious video clip!

Two of the key points are:

Men bond through activity/action. Women bond through conversation.
When wives aren’t happy, their husbands take it as a personal affront to how good of a husband they are.

Additional points about men, romance and their psyche:

Men are simple.
Men are visual creatures.
Men prefer action versus dialogue.
Men prefer touch over talk.
Men prefer positive talk, so their ego doesn’t get triggered. (Negative talk means they are failing as a husband.)
Men prefer solutions not problems.
Men prefer to be solo versus social. (They want to go out with just you not a bunch of people.)
Men prefer to relax, so they don’t have to react.
Men prefer to do one thing versus multiple things at once.
Men prefer to be simple versus complex.
Men need choice in their lives.
Men do care. They just care differently.
Sex is how men feel close to their spouse. It works better than anything else.
Men prefer consistent and predictable. Affectionate. Unconditional. Accepting. (Like their dog…man’s best friend.)
Nothing is sexier to a man than a truly happy wife. Men equate a happy wife to them being a great husband.
Men want women to:
- Look happier, sound happier, be happier! (When women aren’t happy men feel like a failure.)
- Smile once in a while
- Be grateful for what they do have
- Be positive about their life…talk about what is good in life.
- Be less critical.
- Reassure the husband that he’s doing a good job.
- Not try to change him. Let husbands know they are great just the way they are.
- Tell them how thankful they are for him. Cuddle with them whenever you can. Kiss them when they get home.
- Tell them you’re attracted to them.
- Respect them.

Click here to check out Laura’s “Studio 5″ appearance discussing “Secrets of Sexually Satisfied Wives.”

VIDEO CLIP — Secrets of Sexually Satisfied Wives

Laura M. Brotherson — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 00:29:09 +0000

Click here to see a clip of Laura Brotherson on Utah’s KSL “Studio 5” show, Friday, February 13, 2009 (courtesy of KSL). Laura and host, Brooke Walker, discussed some of the “Secrets of Sexually Satisfied Wives.”

Sexually Satisfied Wives…

Embrace their sexuality
Get educated sexually
Overcome inhibitions
Savor sexual feelings
Nurture playfulness

Happy Valentine’s Day!

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Laura M. Brotherson is the author of a groundbreaking book on sexual intimacy and marital oneness entitled, And They Were Not Ashamed—Strengthening Marriage through Sexual Fulfillment. Laura shares her passion for building strong marriages and families as an author, intimacy educator and relationship consultant.

Visit her website www.StrengtheningMarriage.com to learn more and to sign up for her “Straight Talk about Strengthening Marriage” newsletter. StrengtheningMarriage.com is your trusted resource for education, products and services to strengthen marriages intimately!

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Share Your Secrets of Sexually Satisfied Wives

Laura M. Brotherson — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 00:52:36 +0000

QUESTION: How would you describe a sexually satisfied wife?
QUESTION: What would it take to be a sexually satisfied wife?

I’m making a quick trip to Utah for a TV appearance on KSL’s “Studio 5” show Friday, February 13 from 11 – 12 noon (channel 5), and they’ve asked me to talk about “Secrets of Sexually Satisfied Wives.” But before you take a peek at what I’ve said on the subject, I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Whether you are a wife or a husband, we welcome your ideas. We’ll all be looking forward to the comments posted here!

Happy Valentine’s Day to everyone!

Click here to see a video clip of the TV segment.

Staying Together

Laura M. Brotherson — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 20:18:09 +0000

The Osmond Brothers (2nd Generation) sang this song “We’re Staying Together” as a tribute to their parents who recently celebrated their 34th wedding anniversary. It’s true that the greatest gift one can give a child is for their parents to love each other in marriage. I was particularly impressed with this song, which encourages couples to shut out the voices that tempt them with thoughts and actions that could destroy their marriage.

It seems to be more and more rare to find those who have been married any length of time. That makes it all the more important to celebrate those who do find a way to overcome the inevitable challenges in marriage.

Hope you enjoy the song, and find inspiration in it for your own marriage.

(I sure love the lead singer’s voice here — David Osmond. He’s also on American Idol Season 8, so we’ll hopefully get to hear a lot more of him!)

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Laura M. Brotherson is the author of a groundbreaking book on sexual intimacy and marital oneness entitled, And They Were Not Ashamed—Strengthening Marriage through Sexual Fulfillment. Laura shares her passion for building strong marriages and families as an author, intimacy educator and relationship consultant.

Visit her website www.StrengtheningMarriage.com to learn more and to sign up for her “Straight Talk about Strengthening Marriage” newsletter. StrengtheningMarriage.com is your trusted resource for education, products and services to strengthen marriages intimately!

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Secrets of Sexually Satisfied Wives

Laura M. Brotherson — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 22:52:27 +0000

Women have incredible sexual potential. Female sexuality has traditionally been minimized, but for the benefit of one’s wholeness, and for the strength of one’s marriage, an awakening of one’s sexuality within marriage becomes vital.

Sexual satisfaction may seem unimportant to the wife who has not yet made it a priority. Nevertheless, sexual development in marriage goes to the heart of one’s wholeness and personal development. It ultimately allows for the ecstasy of mutual enjoyment in marriage. This is God’s intended gift.

In order to empower women to reap the blessings of sexual wholeness and marital oneness, we must know what it is we are working toward. What are the secrets of sexually satisfied wives? If it is our intention to become sexually whole in our marriages, what are the characteristics of a sexually satisfied wife that we too can develop?

Likes and Accepts Herself. The sexually satisfied wife likes who she is, and makes peace with herself. Having a sexy state of mind means that she can say to her husband, “I like who I am and I’m happy to share it with you!”
Embraces sexuality. The sexually satisfied wife embraces and takes responsibility for her sexuality. She makes it a priority. She sees her sexuality as good and important not only for her marriage, but also as an important part of her beingness and her wholeness. She has learned to find pleasure in the physicalness of the sexual dimension of marriage.
Nurtures the relationship. She nurtures the relationship with her spouse, and willingly addresses issues as they arise, so that they don’t grow and fester. She understands that how connected she feels emotionally towards her spouse affects how she feels sexually. She does what she needs to to nurture feelings of love and friendship.
Overcomes inhibitions. She works to overcome the inhibiting beliefs and barriers that may keep her from enjoying the sexual relationship with her husband. She works to reprogram those thoughts and beliefs that are counterproductive to feelings of emotional connection and sexual arousal.
Nurtures sexual feelings. She makes it a priority to nurture sexual thoughts and feelings towards her spouse. She understands that with her unique wiring, sexual feelings and desires are more consciously acquired.
Sexually educated. She willingly takes an active role in getting educated about this dimension of marriage. She understands and accepts the differences in sexual wiring between herself and her husband, as well as the differing paths to arousal each may experience.
Makes peace with her body. Sexually satisfied wives make peace with their body and appearance, but also do what they can to look their best. They put effort into their health and appearance through exercise, eating healthly, getting enough sleep, and dressing attractively. They make the best of what they have. They also accept that there are some things they can’t change about their appearance, and have learned to be okay with it.
Is fun and playful. The sexually satisfied wife maintains an element of fun and playfulness in the relationship. Even amidst the demands of life, she makes the effort to tease and be playful with her husband. They know each other well, and enjoy each other’s presence.
Knows what she needs. She spends time learning and practicing together with her husband until they have identified what turns her on, and what kind of stimulation she needs to regularly experience orgasm.
Communicates. She’s learned to communicate with her husband without being reactive, so that delicate subjects such as sex can be discussed. She’s willing to ask questions and shares personal preferences to help her husband learn how to sexually engage and excite her.
Likes to touch. She likes to touch. Sexually satisfied wives see to it that there is plenty of touching going on in their marriage. She takes responsibility, if need be, to see that there is enough non-sexual touch and affection outside the bedroom as well as within.
Surrenders to the passion. She’s learned how to relax and let go within lovemaking. She is willing and able to surrender to the all-encompassing experience of sexual pleasure, and is in tune with her sensuousness. While it may seem paradoxical, the sexually satisfied wife not only surrenders herself to the sensual experience, but she also actively engages in experiencing and expressing her passion.
Takes responsibility for self. The sexually satisfied wife takes responsibility for her happiness and well-being, and keeps her focus on things she can do to improve the marriage and sexual relationship. She knows that how she feels about herself affects how she feels sexually. She is regularly working on aspects of herself that she’d like to change, which keeps her from getting caught up in trying to change her spouse.

These secrets of sexually satisfied wives can show us how we too can be empowered to experience and enjoy sexual wholeness and the sexual potential God created in marriage.

NOTE — Click here for a Video Clip from Laura’s appearance on Utah’s KSL “Studio 5” show discussing the secrets of sexually satisfied wives.

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Laura M. Brotherson is the author of a groundbreaking book on sexual intimacy and marital oneness entitled, And They Were Not Ashamed—Strengthening Marriage through Sexual Fulfillment. Laura shares her passion for building strong marriages and families as an author, intimacy educator and relationship consultant.

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Video Clips — Taboo Subject of Sex & Talking to Kids about Sex

Laura M. Brotherson — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 20:47:41 +0000

Laura was recently interviewed on the KJZZ TV “The Home Team” show with host Julie de Azevedo Hanks. She was asked to do a second show as well that was pre-recorded then broadcast on Monday, September 15, 2008.

We had a great discussion about why sex is such a taboo subject, and how to get past the taboo to talk to our kids about sex. We appreciate the courage and candor of our special guests Chris and Heidie.

You can watch these two additional segments by clicking on the video screens below. Feel free to leave a comment and share these clips with friends and family.

VIDEO CLIPS

Why Is Sex Such a Taboo Subject
Sex is one of the single most difficult subjects for couples and families to discuss comfortably and confidently. Author and intimacy educator, Laura M. Brotherson, discusses with Utah’s KJZZ “Home Team” host Julie de Azevedo Hanks why sex is such a taboo subject for couples and how they can overcome this difficulty. (9/08)

How to Talk to Your Kids about Sex
Author and intimacy educator, Laura M. Brotherson, shares insights with Utah’s KJZZ “Home Team” host Julie de Azevedo Hanks to help parents learn how to talk to their kids about sex. They discuss the four steps of: (1) Preparing to teach; (2) What to teach; (3) When to teach; and (4) How to teach. Learn what the four “have-to-times” are for talking to your kids about sex. Parents can prepare themselves and their children for a relationship-building experience discussing sex and intimacy in preparation for a positive and fulfilling intimate relationship in marriage. (9/08)

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New Video Clips — Laura Brotherson on KJZZ “Home Team” Show

Laura M. Brotherson — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 19:46:43 +0000

CHECK OUT THE TWO NEW VIDEO CLIPS

I had the opportunity to be a guest on KJZZ TV “The Home Team” show with host Julie de Azevedo Hanks on Monday, July 7, 2008. We had a great discussion about the female sexual response, and I shared six ways couples can strengthen their marriage sexually.

You’ll find the following two video segments from this show by clicking on the links. Feel free to leave a comment and share these clips with friends and family.

VIDEO CLIPS

Pt1 – 8Ts of the Female Sexual Response
Laura helps couples strengthen their marriage sexually as she discusses the 8 Ts of the female sexual response with Utah’s KJZZ “Home Team” host Julie de Azevedo Hanks.

Pt2 – 6 Tips to Strengthen the Sexual Relationship
Laura shares 6 tips to help couples strengthen their marriage sexually. Thank you to Heidie and Chris, the brave couple, who were willing to share their story and their successes.

On the KJZZ website the video clips were only available for a short time, so we have received permission to upload them to our new “StrengthenMarriage” YouTube channel.

Here are some of the photos from the show…

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Laura M. Brotherson is the author of a groundbreaking book on sexual intimacy and marital oneness entitled, And They Were Not Ashamed—Strengthening Marriage through Sexual Fulfillment. Laura shares her passion for building strong marriages and families as an author, intimacy educator and relationship consultant.