Comments on: Glenn Beck, Chick Flicks and Foreplay

By: Mr_Mild

Mr_Mild — Fri, 24 Aug 2007 23:11:40 +0000

Guys, there seems to be built into most men a gene that screams “pleasure will come by pleasing your woman”. If that takes enduring a ‘bonnet’ movie or even an extended visit from a mother-in-law — then so be it. As we men learn this great truth, and learn its secrets through practice, we not only achieve great satisfaction in pleasing others, we position ourselves to receive satisfaction in some of our most favorite ways.
If we are of the notion that adventure and excitement brings enjoyment and satisfaction, especially in matters intimate, then going the extra mile in the ‘pleasing your woman’ department (…along with verbalizing our own needs and desires in the excitement arena) can yield rich rewards. This is one area where patience and perseverance on the part of we men can pay big dividends.

By: i80

i80 — Thu, 23 Aug 2007 23:21:52 +0000

If “chick flicks” are foreplay for women, isn’t that similar to pornography being used as foreplay for men?

By: Laura M. Brotherson

Laura M. Brotherson — Sat, 11 Aug 2007 21:56:28 +0000

It is amazing what can happen when we decide to make something that’s important to our spouse important to us as well. I recall two incidents that have helped me change my thinking and stretch to enjoy things that my husband enjoys.

I remember Kevin and I having a conversation one night when he said something to the effect that we always did what I want. I was taken aback. It really hit me that he might actually be right. I was sick with the realization. I didn’t want to be that way. I have since made a conscious effort to make sure we do things he wants instead of him always having to go along with what I want.

I also remember having a conversation with a man who said that he wished women understood how important adventure and excitement is to men. He said it’s a sacrifice for men to “settle down” when they get married. He wishes wives would help their husbands feel that married life can still have adventure and excitement. Whether the wife learns to enjoy his action flicks or seeks some adventure in the intimate relationship, these things are important to many men.

I have found that as I have learned to enjoy sex more thoroughly a side effect has been to have greater respect and appreciation for men, masculinity and even testosterone!

Many women have a thinly veiled negative attitude toward men and anything “manly,” as evidenced by the male-bashing that frequently occurs. In learning to enjoy action flicks with muscle men standing up to the bad guys, as well as big trucks, football players, cowboys in rodeos, and other things that our society derides about men, I’ve found that “real men” and “maleness” can add fuel to my fire. It’s not just my husband that gets into the action flicks any more…and it’s not just “chick flicks” that can be psychological foreplay for women.

By: LT72884

LT72884 — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 16:29:46 +0000

Hmm, this is interesting. my whole life i grew up with my mom and sister raising me.my dad helped to but he was gone alot.i actually prefer my mom becasue when i was younger she was really really sick and so i wanted to make sure i got the most out of my time with her. any way i grew up on chick flicks. my sister made me watch all the Anne of green gables including the new one that came out a few years ago. she is my only sibling so i am really close to her. She has made me watch so many chick flicks that even now on my own time i catch my self watching one and thinking to my self. Man i feel so weird right now. i am a 23 year old guy watching a chick flick by myself. To me chick flicks have a deeper meaning than what meats the eye. Most of your life experiences can relate to a chick flick. For example, the movie One fine day. what guy in there right mind wants to be alone for the rest of his life. NOT ME. it kinda motivates me to get going. Ever after is about the importance of being honest and earnest in your life, even though you go through hell to get to were you are, and that some people will get in your way to try and pull you down. Return to me is agood one about sacrifice and love. his wife died and his new girlfriend ends up with his wifes heart. he sacrificed his wife sorta speak but saved a life and fell in love with her. I totally agree with happy LDS wife. when something is important to him that it is important to you. i feel the same way toward my future wife. If scrape booking is important to her than i will make sure that it is important to me and that i support her to my fullest with her talents and abilities, even if i do not enjoy scrape booking my self. but hey you never know tell ya try, i might find myself enjoying scrape booking more often with my wife when we do it together. any way good story and great comments from happy lds wife mom person.

By: winterman93

winterman93 — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 06:27:04 +0000

hehe…I am not sure what to make of this one, but my wife is into the action movies, the martial art movies, comedies..and VERY occasionally..the “chick flicks”..and I like more of the romantic comedies..I think she is against those because they can be terribly cheesy..but there are some (shhh When Harry Met Sally) that are halfway decent and even rather clever..

I AM aware of how THAT level of the female response works…but..I didn’t expect that..now on the small screen, my wife likes HGtv and cooking, the home shows, and interior decorating….lucky for me the “bonnet movies” are not a challenge..the challenge is for when I like to see movies like “Stand and Deliver” or other movies that have an inspirational message behind. I LOVE sports movies like “Field of Dreams” and “hoosiers” and sometimes she will go along with it..but if there was ever a “tone” or a desire..it didn’t come from film…in fact we both like film so we know better than to talk during movies….but there is a mood that is created..and we usually DO hold hands throughout the movie. If we went to the movie, we watch the whole movie and go out for pie…if we stayed indoors..then we may see the whole movie or it depends on how late it is and how the kids are..or how interesting the film is..but yes films can be great..or they can kill a mood quick hehe

By: HappyLDSWifeMom

HappyLDSWifeMom — Thu, 26 Jul 2007 05:59:18 +0000

For my husband’s birthday, I told him I would watch one of his favorite movies, “Duel” (Steven Speilburg’s first movie about a demonic truck driver who tries throughout the whole movie, to run Dennis Weaver off the road). I told my husband I would not complain and would stay awake for the whole movie. I kept my word. I was amazed to learn Steven used ground breaking technology in it and used the sound from the truck going over the cliff at the end of the movie…sorry to ruin it for those who have not seen it yet, was the noise he used for his huge shark in “Jaws”.

It meant a lot to my husband that I made the
SINCERE effort to really try and not just watch but appreciate his movie when he knew how much I could not stand it.
He has since watched,”Ever After” and “While You were Sleeping” with me even though he cannot stand to watch chick flicks.

I learned a valuable lesson from that initial effort; when I show him by my actions and not just words, that when something is important to him it is important to me, and not expect anything in return, he is more considerate of me.

The Golden Rule works in marriage!