Comments on: Sex is Easy–Lovemaking Takes Effort http://strengtheningmarriage.com/blog/intimacy/sex-is-easy-lovemaking-takes-effort/ Official Weblog of Author and Intimacy Educator Laura M. Brotherson Wed, 07 Jan 2009 00:51:40 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2 By: LT72884 http://strengtheningmarriage.com/blog/intimacy/sex-is-easy-lovemaking-takes-effort/#comment-206 LT72884 Mon, 25 Feb 2008 18:30:03 +0000 http://strengtheningmarriage.com/blog/intimacy/sex-is-easy-lovemaking-takes-effort/#comment-206 I tell you what is scary. The fact that i know exactly what she is talking about. I am 23 and single but when i was younger i ended up getting involved with pornography. From the age of 6 to the age of 15. Thats a long time to be involved with it. There are many reasons of why it happened which i will not go into. Alot has to deal with emotional trauma as a child. I had no other place to escape to but pornography. I do not ell my many people about this unless i know that they struggle with it as i once did. I know what it is like to think 24/7 about pornography becasue thats all you can relate to. Thankfully i did not have sex before my mission or my marriage. This is what is extremely scary to me and i am sharing because i have no idea what to expect. For 9 years i learned everything that i know now about sex from pornography. When i knew that something had to be done i took care of the issue. Has it be hard. You bet it has. There are times still even today that i get so tempted that i break down and will cry because of the emotional torture that it causes ones soul. When i found Lara's book i was extremely grateful because i finally learned the true meaning of sex and the spirituality behind it. I do not try to read the book any more until it is time for me to get married. Reason for that is becasue if i know it all know(not saying that i do)then it wont be as fun to learn with my wife. I want to be surprised and enjoy learning about sex like a normal healthy relationship should be like. I want more than anything is this entire world to have fun learning about my wife and what makes her tick emotionally, physically and spiritually. There will be times where i will want to read Lara's book just for kicks and giggles but i dont. I dont want to know any more about sex until im married. Its not fun learning by yourself. But i can tell you one thing for sure and thats that it is not impossible to break the addiction, i did. It took years and it was only a few years ago when i finally break it completely. I am scared to death about sex becasue i have no idea how to act. I still have alot of healing to go through and i pray that my wife will be patient with me. I do not know when i will be married but i hope its with in the next year or so. im looking forward to it but im scared also. It could take the rest of my life to heal from the damage caused by pornography. I do not know what a healthy relationship should even be like. I guess its time for me to learn. Any way Lara, i just wanted to share some of my thoughts with you. God bless and keep up the good work. signed: Your biggest fan!! I tell you what is scary. The fact that i know exactly what she is talking about. I am 23 and single but when i was younger i ended up getting involved with pornography. From the age of 6 to the age of 15. Thats a long time to be involved with it. There are many reasons of why it happened which i will not go into. Alot has to deal with emotional trauma as a child. I had no other place to escape to but pornography. I do not ell my many people about this unless i know that they struggle with it as i once did. I know what it is like to think 24/7 about pornography becasue thats all you can relate to. Thankfully i did not have sex before my mission or my marriage. This is what is extremely scary to me and i am sharing because i have no idea what to expect. For 9 years i learned everything that i know now about sex from pornography. When i knew that something had to be done i took care of the issue. Has it be hard. You bet it has. There are times still even today that i get so tempted that i break down and will cry because of the emotional torture that it causes ones soul. When i found Lara’s book i was extremely grateful because i finally learned the true meaning of sex and the spirituality behind it. I do not try to read the book any more until it is time for me to get married. Reason for that is becasue if i know it all know(not saying that i do)then it wont be as fun to learn with my wife. I want to be surprised and enjoy learning about sex like a normal healthy relationship should be like. I want more than anything is this entire world to have fun learning about my wife and what makes her tick emotionally, physically and spiritually. There will be times where i will want to read Lara’s book just for kicks and giggles but i dont. I dont want to know any more about sex until im married. Its not fun learning by yourself. But i can tell you one thing for sure and thats that it is not impossible to break the addiction, i did. It took years and it was only a few years ago when i finally break it completely. I am scared to death about sex becasue i have no idea how to act. I still have alot of healing to go through and i pray that my wife will be patient with me. I do not know when i will be married but i hope its with in the next year or so. im looking forward to it but im scared also. It could take the rest of my life to heal from the damage caused by pornography. I do not know what a healthy relationship should even be like. I guess its time for me to learn. Any way Lara, i just wanted to share some of my thoughts with you. God bless and keep up the good work.

signed:
Your biggest fan!!

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