Comments on: Marriage Takes Three http://strengtheningmarriage.com/blog/marriage/marriage-takes-three/ Official Weblog of Author and Intimacy Educator Laura M. Brotherson Tue, 06 Jan 2009 22:53:10 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2 By: JJ http://strengtheningmarriage.com/blog/marriage/marriage-takes-three/#comment-92 JJ Wed, 07 Nov 2007 20:00:36 +0000 http://strengtheningmarriage.com/blog/marriage/marriage-takes-three/#comment-92 I've always liked the triangle diagram- even Elder Bednar has used this. In most cases, I believe this is true. In some cases, I believe husband and wife both progress individually (to some extent) without becoming one. I believe such an approach defeats the purpose of marriage and cheats the couple of many blessings that could be theirs if they sought the oneness that is intended through marriage. I believe that one or both spouses in these "parallel" marriages may feel that they are progressing and may not even realize all that they are missing. Individuals in these marriages cannot know the joy that comes from oneness, nor can they obtain the same degree of progress that accompanies those couples that jointly seek to honor their covenants. I believe that most of us, to some extent, become somewhat complacent in our marriages, and over time, if course corrections are not made, these marriages will eventually end up as "parallel" marriages where joy and progress are limited. Such a result to me is as tragic as divorce or infidelity. I’ve always liked the triangle diagram- even Elder Bednar has used this. In most cases, I believe this is true.

In some cases, I believe husband and wife both progress individually (to some extent) without becoming one. I believe such an approach defeats the purpose of marriage and cheats the couple of many blessings that could be theirs if they sought the oneness that is intended through marriage.

I believe that one or both spouses in these “parallel” marriages may feel that they are progressing and may not even realize all that they are missing. Individuals in these marriages cannot know the joy that comes from oneness, nor can they obtain the same degree of progress that accompanies those couples that jointly seek to honor their covenants.

I believe that most of us, to some extent, become somewhat complacent in our marriages, and over time, if course corrections are not made, these marriages will eventually end up as “parallel” marriages where joy and progress are limited. Such a result to me is as tragic as divorce or infidelity.

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