Comments on: Secrets of Sexually Satisfied Wives

By: Mr_Mild

Mr_Mild — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 23:41:48 +0000

The importance of these twelve steps to a successful marriage can’t be overemphasized. As a husband, I witnessed firsthand the tragic results of what can happen as each of these critical points are swept beneath the rug. Since then, with a truly loving and caring spouse, we have both individually and collectively experienced the best marriage and relationship that we believe God could create. For us, each new day is a gift from God. Realizing, understanding, and practicing Dr. Brotherson’s “secrets” has contributed more to our mutual happiness than anything else in our near-perfect marriage.
Men, if there is anything you should do to clear the path for your wife’s sexual enjoyment, begin today to pave the way. Your overall marital satisfaction and most certainly your personal sexual satisfaction depends on your success in facilitating your wife’s overall marital enjoyment.

By: cr

cr — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 16:56:04 +0000

I have read most of the book, and agree with it. However, I can not get my wife to read it.. She just looks at it as another “sex book”…. The “good girl syndrome” definitely describes her… I have also read parts of Michelle Davis book and chapter 1 describes me exactly. This condition has existed since day-1

part of the problem is that my wife does not want to think of herself as “my toy” so as a result she thinks she “gives in” and has sex frequently, but from my point of view it is rarely.

I would just die to have her play with me a little (see #7). However, when I try to play with her I get the response is that all you think about…

After reading these twelve items I can see the wisdom in them. However after the problem and approaching her with the idea of the book I would not dare.

Extermely frustrated right now….Trying to be happy with what I have.

By: Temperance

Temperance — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 08:02:47 +0000

Hi Laura
Thank you so much for this blog entry and thank you so so much for your book. I’ve been waiting for this book since we got married a few years ago. It answers tons of questions we have!
Since we live in France not everybody speaks or even read english, so can I translate into french some parts (like this blog entry) for some of my LDS friends who are looking for answers but can’t find them anywhere? It’s really really hard to find a good book about sexuality here specially when you are LDS.
Thank you for what you’re doing!!!

By: Wishbone

Wishbone — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 21:40:30 +0000

I read recently that both men and women must bring all they have to marriage bed if sexual intimacy is to approach its potential in our marriages.

So, if a man does not open himself to his partner but instead focuses his attention more on the way he is feeling and on his own impending orgasm, the couple’s sexual time together will become frustrating and unfulfilling for the wife at first and actuall the man as well in the long run.

However, if the wife does not open to her partner to magnify his desire, then intimacy can become cold and again unfulfilling, again for both of them.

I agree with this concept as presented in the book I was reading and think that this speaks to what you say about a woman’s vast sexual potential. So, as both husbands and wives we must continue to properly magnify and properly direct our sexual energies to make the marriage bed a place of deep bonding and shared love, respect, and caring, as well as one of deeply fulfilling sexual encounters.

Thanks for this blog entry. Good stuff for all of us to review and focus on.