You have wonderful insights and have great writing skills. I love your book and I feel it is one of the most important books I have ever read.

This blog entry is wonderful as they all are.

I do feel that you may have missed one barrier for parents talking to kids about sex. That is when the parents intimacy issues are so significant that the parent is on an emotional edge. That would describe me.

When I start thinking about trying to “Focus on the Blessings” I just about have an emotional breakdown. I know your response will probably be to “get that fixed so you can talk about it with your kids as well as for your own happiness.” I have tried for decades - reading a few dozen “relationship books” (none of which hold a candle to yours), getting counseling myself, and finally getting my wife to go to counseling. So far nothing has changed. About the only way I can handle the situation is to try as much as possible not to think about it and pray for the ability to handle the situation.

I honestly don’t know that I could effectively approach my kids without “dumping” some of my emotional issues during the discussion.

Thanks so much for all of your work. I read of others that read your book and are transformed (such as “HappyLDSWifeMom” that left a comment) and it gives me hope that one day maybe my wife will actually read your book and engage in our marriage on this level.

I was a leader in Young Womens for most of my married life (nearly 30 yrs) and I was a firm believer in living what you teach whether in public or private. I missed out on the most important part…that when they were no longer single, the rules change about what it means to be chaste and virtous.

Finding Laura’s book helped me heal and break free from the dark prison of the Good Girl Syndrome I had confined myself to for so many years. I had no idea of the joy I was missing out on. As I have learned and grown in my testimony of the Lord’s design for sexual intimacy in marriage, my husband’s and my relationship has blossomed a thousand fold.

It helps to gain a testimony for one’s self Who the author of sex is. It took me a while to get used to the idea that the Lord actually cares about my sexual relations with my husband! The answers He has given have been powerful and sweet, accompanied by peace that goes beyond understanding!

I found Laura’s book after our children were grown and some were already married. Our last child just got married and I think we gave him a coronary when we first tried to talk to him about sex. He looked at us as if to say, “Who are you and what did you do with my parents?”

He is now married and he and his wife share a mutually loving and affectionate relationship. I give thanks to Laura for providing the tools to not only help us as parents to know what to share but for him and his wife to learn for themselves that sex is not evil like the world would have you believe.

Getting over the GGS and learning the Lord’s design for sex was the best thing I ever did for my marriage and our children. I used Laura’s book to try to do damage control for our married sons. The oldest is way ahead of where I was when I was twice his age in being well adjusted sexually and he and his wife often share their knowledge with engaged couples before they get married. He and his wife learned those things from some married friends who did the same thing with them before they got married. That was before I found Laura’s book.

Since I have learned God’s design for sex, and overcame the GGS, I have been able to discuss sex very openly and naturally with all my sons and their wives.

To show what a good job my husband and I did hiding any evidence of our being intimate with each other, when one of our sons (who was in his mid teens) oone time saw me coming out of the bathroom where his father was showering, he exclaimed, “Mom, dad is in there!”

His father later asked him how he thought he got here. I think it horrified him to think we would be in the same room unclothed…and Heaven forbid do anything more!

Our oldest son shared with me how when he and his brother were giving our youngest son the sex talk just before he got married, they all discussed how they could not imagine their father and I being intimate when they were growing up. I guess we did a good job hiding it…or lowsy, which ever way you look at it. We do not hide it now. We are very private, but we do not hide how we feel about each other.

We shocked our youngest son recently when we asked him to knock before coming in our home (as he has a key) because we have the house to ourselves now and we do not want to embarrass him and his wife. He has abided by our wishes letting us answer the door now…and that is a good thing!

Anyway, I thank you Laura for helping me break free of the dark prison of the Good Girl Syndrome! Your book has given me the Knight in Armour I dreamed of as a young woman! It took nearly 30 years of marriage to accomplish, but it happened. Life with my sweetheart just keeps getting better and sweeter and a LOT MORE FUN! The only regrets I have is that I wasted all those years before missing out on enjoyment with my husband that I had no idea existed! Laura, you are one of my favorite people and a true friend!

I already have your “And They Were Not Ashamed” book and my husband and I love it! I’m going to get your book about teaching kids about intimacy. I think that will help so much! Thanks!