Comments on: Good Girls Do! http://strengtheningmarriage.com/blog/sex/good-girls-do/ Official Weblog of Author and Intimacy Educator Laura M. Brotherson Wed, 07 Jan 2009 00:55:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2 By: remiopayemi http://strengtheningmarriage.com/blog/sex/good-girls-do/#comment-197 remiopayemi Wed, 20 Feb 2008 09:16:54 +0000 http://strengtheningmarriage.com/blog/sex/good-girls-do/#comment-197 thanks for this detailed expression and effort to restore full knowledge about what should and what should not about sex, both within and outside marriage. you will discover that even in Africa, the few that were brought up with good moral standard are usually faced with integrating themselves into sex in marriage. they tend to see sex as a tool only for child rearing and never as a cement that keeps couples together. but dymistifying the wrong beliefs about sex will go a long way to help restore the love among many couples who are going through this. I have been married for seven years and just bringing my wife out of such beliefs. thanks. thanks for this detailed expression and effort to restore full knowledge about what should and what should not about sex, both within and outside marriage. you will discover that even in Africa, the few that were brought up with good moral standard are usually faced with integrating themselves into sex in marriage. they tend to see sex as a tool only for child rearing and never as a cement that keeps couples together. but dymistifying the wrong beliefs about sex will go a long way to help restore the love among many couples who are going through this. I have been married for seven years and just bringing my wife out of such beliefs.
thanks.

]]> By: JustMe http://strengtheningmarriage.com/blog/sex/good-girls-do/#comment-171 JustMe Thu, 07 Feb 2008 19:54:02 +0000 http://strengtheningmarriage.com/blog/sex/good-girls-do/#comment-171 I completely agree. The challenge, as I see it, is this: husband and wife will rarely have the same interest or desire for intimacy. If husband and wife can communicate openly about needs and expectations and both are willing to be somewhat flexible to accommodate their spouse (not just out of "duty" but out of love), everything is fine. But, how often does this happen? Without open communication and flexibility, the desire gap then leads to resentment and creating more distance between each other, and this can be a vicious cycle that is hard to break. I wish that my wife and I had started the habit of talking about these issues early in our marriage- of course it's never too late, but now that we have been married a number of years it is much more difficult to have the type of discussion that we need and to change our mindset and behavior. I completely agree. The challenge, as I see it, is this: husband and wife will rarely have the same interest or desire for intimacy. If husband and wife can communicate openly about needs and expectations and both are willing to be somewhat flexible to accommodate their spouse (not just out of “duty” but out of love), everything is fine. But, how often does this happen? Without open communication and flexibility, the desire gap then leads to resentment and creating more distance between each other, and this can be a vicious cycle that is hard to break. I wish that my wife and I had started the habit of talking about these issues early in our marriage- of course it’s never too late, but now that we have been married a number of years it is much more difficult to have the type of discussion that we need and to change our mindset and behavior.

]]> By: UnderTheSun http://strengtheningmarriage.com/blog/sex/good-girls-do/#comment-166 UnderTheSun Sat, 02 Feb 2008 03:35:15 +0000 http://strengtheningmarriage.com/blog/sex/good-girls-do/#comment-166 God bless you! Your husband is a lucky man! God bless you! Your husband is a lucky man!

]]> By: JL http://strengtheningmarriage.com/blog/sex/good-girls-do/#comment-165 JL Thu, 31 Jan 2008 19:27:23 +0000 http://strengtheningmarriage.com/blog/sex/good-girls-do/#comment-165 I am really glad Laura wrote her book! I read about her writing the book in the BYU Alumni Magazine and have purchased several copies of the book. I was not prepared for the sexual part of marriage at all. Everyone was "hush hush". I tried hard to prepare my oldest daughter for marriage. I had her read Laura's book and another good book and we discussed the books and I tried to help her plan for the honeymoon. Laura's book has helped me to improve my marriage too. I am really glad Laura wrote her book! I read about her writing the book in the BYU Alumni Magazine and have purchased several copies of the book. I was not prepared for the sexual part of marriage at all. Everyone was “hush hush”.

I tried hard to prepare my oldest daughter for marriage. I had her read Laura’s book and another good book and we discussed the books and I tried to help her plan for the honeymoon.

Laura’s book has helped me to improve my marriage too.

]]> By: Laura M. Brotherson http://strengtheningmarriage.com/blog/sex/good-girls-do/#comment-164 Laura M. Brotherson Wed, 30 Jan 2008 23:43:52 +0000 http://strengtheningmarriage.com/blog/sex/good-girls-do/#comment-164 You go girl!!! You go girl!!!

]]> By: Time2LearnSeasonOfStrength http://strengtheningmarriage.com/blog/sex/good-girls-do/#comment-162 Time2LearnSeasonOfStrength Wed, 30 Jan 2008 22:02:38 +0000 http://strengtheningmarriage.com/blog/sex/good-girls-do/#comment-162 I wanted to THANK YOU for this article. I have been spreading the new "good girl" message to other friends. I have been shocked by responses from other women who have had 5 or more children. Some have never had an orgasm or see it as something worldly or evil. Other women have treated me different. I may have been too open and shocking for others, but I have never shared intimate details or betrayed that trust. Many of these women I have looked up to as the standard super woman! I am so glad for Laura's book and I wish many more women would take sex more seriously. Maybe the trash would be taken out more often, and our honey-do list would not exist. Valentine's would land every week! Our men would be happier, as would we. I feel blessed that my husband enjoys our time together as much as I do! I am really proud to say that this GOOD GIRL DOES!!! I wanted to THANK YOU for this article. I have been spreading the new “good girl” message to other friends. I have been shocked by responses from other women who have had 5 or more children. Some have never had an orgasm or see it as something worldly or evil. Other women have treated me different. I may have been too open and shocking for others, but I have never shared intimate details or betrayed that trust. Many of these women I have looked up to as the standard super woman!

I am so glad for Laura’s book and I wish many more women would take sex more seriously. Maybe the trash would be taken out more often, and our honey-do list would not exist. Valentine’s would land every week! Our men would be happier, as would we. I feel blessed that my husband enjoys our time together as much as I do! I am really proud to say that this GOOD GIRL DOES!!!

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