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Newsletter and Updates #22 October 30, 2006www.StrengtheningMarriage.com
Unspoken Sexual Contract in Marriage
Talk on CD--LOVE 101
"Happily Ever After" Marriage Conference, July '07 (Orlando)
New Product--Teaching Intimacy 101
Author Note--Graduate Program
Unspoken Sexual Contract in Marriage
Some recent emails have prompted me to address the issue of unspoken sexual contracts between husbands and wives. The unspoken contract in marriage often sounds something like this, "I expect you to be faithful to me, but don't expect me to meet your sexual needs." The following emails illustrate this heartbreaking dilemma:
No Sex for Seven Years
"I have been married for over 30 years. My wife has had no interest in cuddling, kissing, touching or sex for the last 7 years. During the two preceding years we had sex twice in one year, and once in the following year, and none since. It is very frustrating and disheartening. We made promises to each other more than 30 years ago and I am wondering if I even want to be married any more. I stick with it out of duty and commitment and honor. I gave my word.
Wife Has Had No Interest in Sex for Many Years
"I fear there may be many wives who feel that the days of enjoying anything sexual are over. It seems that once the kids have come, are raised and are gone, many are happy to be done with intimacy. It even occurs with good women who are good wives. They just don't want intimacy to be helped.
Marriage is a stewardship with responsibilities for both husbands and wives to strive to meet each others' needs, and to share the responsibility for each other's susceptibility to temptation. This intimate marital stewardship often requires soul stretching. What can you do to create a relationship where the needs for intimacy are met for both spouses? The following are some suggestions:
Talk on CD
"LOVE 101 -- Learning to Love More Meaningfully"
How well do you know the specific keys to your spouse's heart? How well are you meeting their needs for love? Learning to meet each other's needs for love allows you to grow in ways that help you become more alive, and more whole, resulting in a close and connected intimately fulfilling relationship. On this new CD you'll hear Laura share her personal experiences with learning to love her husband better, and gain valuable insights to strengthen your marriage.
Purchase "LOVE 101" Talk on CD
"Happily Ever After" Marriage Conference
July 12-15, 2007 (Orlando, Florida)
If you can't make it to our next annual Couples' Valentine's Cruise, (only six spots left) then we hope you'll make it to the upcoming "Happily Ever After" marriage celebration/conference in Orlando, Florida this summer. The Association for Couples in Marriage Enrichment (ACME) has asked Laura to be one of three Saturday Masters Workshops. She'll be teaching, "Sexy is a State of Mind--Cultivating Sexual Desire for Your Spouse." This conference will be a wonderful event, a great opportunity to strengthen your marriage, and a great anniversary getaway for you and your spouse!
International Marriage Enrichment CelebrationJuly 12-15, 2007 (Orlando, Florida)
"'Happily Ever After' Turning Fairy Tales Into Reality"
Masters Workshop by Laura M. Brotherson--Sat. afternoon, July 14, 2007
"Sexy is a State of Mind--Cultivating Sexual Desire for Your Spouse"
For more information visit:
Association for Couples in Marriage Enrichment (ACME)
Click here for additional Event information.
New Product Coming Soon!
"TEACHING INTIMACY 101 -- How to Teach Your Children about Sex and Intimacy in Marriage"
Most parents know they should talk to their children about sex, but don't know what to say, or where to begin. Teaching Intimacy 101 , taken from the book And They Were Not Ashamed--Strengthening Marriage through Sexual Fulfillment, shines a light on the subject, making it easy for parents to feel confident in the ongoing process of providing a positive and healthy dialogue about sex and intimacy. Parents will be able to overcome their discomfort, prepare themselves and their children for these sacred conversations, and learn what, when, why, and how to teach their children about the intricacies of intimacy, and better prepare them for a mutually fulfilling, lasting relationship in marriage.
--Coming the end of November 2007--
Click here for other available Products.
For those of you who have been wondering about the reduced frequency of our "Straight Talk about Strengthening Marriage" newsletters, Laura has been enrolled in a graduate program with Capella University since May 2006 to obtain her master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. We hope to be able to continue to send out our newsletter monthly, but the frequency may be affected by the coursework at times. We appreciate your understanding.
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